I have a love of life.
Some may call me a cynic but I'm truly an optimistic realist.
I work on the philosophy “If you expect the worst but aim for the best, you'll land somewhere that's comfortable.”
The pro's of proving
scientifically there's a physical difference between the brains of
hetrosexual and homosexuals are:
The first is obvious,
we will know that it is not a matter of choice because very few if
any humans or animals can consciously control the development of
their neuropaths. This would then make it harder for people to
justify homophobia.
Secondly, it would then
give us a bases to research the causes and ultimately to see if it is
genetical or not. Thereby, reinforcing or not the case of if it's
choice or not.
Additionally, if anyone
thought they were homosexual they could be “tested” for it. The
risk of testing would me that it makes it more of an “illness”
but if it was approached in the same way as intelligence with the IQ
test then maybe not. This however leads away from the neurology and
genetics and into the field of psychology. With many things in
psychology they aren't solidly defined and the “choice” argument
could creep in. I doubt though, that anyone would “choose” to be
clinically retarded nor would they choose to be in a minority
(homosexual). Yes, homosexuality could be seen as a negative thing
still but at least there would be a marked and defined difference in
thought processes and such. How practical this would be I don't know.
The downsides are:
That if there is not
actually a difference it will reinforce the choice opinion and help
justify homophobia.
However, if there is a
difference that isn't genetical and is due to the way homosexuals are
brought up. It could lead to abuse of children, young adults and
adults that take solace in religions because they find it difficult
to understand their feelings.
The people that come
out when they are older may then feel worse for not knowing who they
were before.
The “Honeymoon” has
been brought to a close by me.
This morning I dragged
my butt out of bed after a disturbing choice to voluntarily watch
Jeremy Kyle. If you don't know what this is Imagine Ricky Lake but
with a male host and a slight increase in civility. If that fails to help you, look it up on YouTube.
So, you want the
low-down on the Wedding... Here we go then...
I got up at around 9
a.m.and Sam at 11 a.m. - overall it took us about an hour to an hour
and a half to get ready.
We did our own hair and
make-up, somehow, everyone failed to point out a unblended patch
under my eye. Never mind, we noticed it in the photo's afterwards and
that's the main thing right?
My aunt doubled as our
chauffeur and our witness. No, she doesn't have the big fancy limo we
were planning on but after doing some research, we found that the
operators were...pricks! A 2 hour hire was going to cost say £200 as
soon as we mentioned the word "wedding" it increased by 50% to a 100%. I could go on a rant here about capitalists and taking
advantage of a special day but I shan't. Instead our ride was a very
clean and comfortable, gold Renault Cleo.
The only issue was when
we got out and Sam came to guide me, I'd already started to move off
and she accidentally stood on my dress nearly pulling it down (off).
Once I'd regrouped we met with the rest of the “party” and headed
in. After being offered a £1,000 to not go through with it and to go
away for ever breaking Sam's heart (which I declined) we double
checked everything with the Registrar and went through to the
“ceremony room”.
On our way through, we
had some photo's taken on a little landing leading up to the town
museum against a banerstrade. The banerstrade was made from wood and
a little creaky, me being me, I turned to Sam and asked;: Babe, will
this hold your weight”. Yes, I got laughs but I also got a smack
from Sam, still unsure why...
Once everyone else and
the dog had their photo's taken on the same little bit we waited a
few extra minutes just incase any of the people from Facebook or
Twitter that'd been invited were running late (but none turned up).
And then...
The bells tolled on our
single life (living together) and the key was put in the door of
“marriage”. Word by word it turned in the lock, before long the
door was open and we walked through it to congratulations from family
(in person) and friends (on twitter, Facebook and by text).
Our vowels went like
this:
“I promise you
loyalty and friendship, and to love you with all that I am and all
that I can be. I promise you this from the depth of my heart and
mind, for all our life together.”
Then for the exchange
of the rings, we went for;
“I give you this ring
as a sign of our partnership. All that I am I give to you, All that I
have I share with you, for the whole of our life together.”
I was good to recite
these off the top of my head but the Registrar got me to repeat after
her just incase I forgot them:). Unlikely but it equalled things out
because Sam hadn't even learned them as she would of forgot them for
sure anyway.
We had more photo's
taken and then got back in the car to come home.
Our reception comprised
of a buffet put on by Sam's granny. It was tasty and most of the
company was good too. The cake was homemade by me and went down well
with everyone. It was a lemon and vanilla sponge with white fondant
and smarties:)
The topper was the most expensive part at £7.50 from... Yes, eBay!
Sam stayed in her dress
for the whole thing but once again me being me and despite people
trying to convince me not to I got changed into track suit bottoms
and a hoody. Not out of place though because it says on it “OUT And
I'm Not Alone”.
After the buffet and
cake had been consumed or as much of it that could be, we tide it up
and kicked everyone out. Being a social hand grenade can be useful on
occasions.
There was no clearing
up to be done because Sam's Grandparents did it all to save us the
trouble.
We chilled out and at
around 9.30 p.m. we ordered a Dominoes Pizza:). Who says romance is
dead! We ate the rest of the buffet food over the next two to three
days, the cake however didn't last quite as long...
The “Honeymoon” has
been staying up most of the night watching movies and telly, eating
lots of junk food and sleeping very late. Now I've declared it over
and it's time to try and get life back in gear.
Has getting Civilly
Partnered/Married made a difference? Yes! We feel much closer now the
open door has closed behind us and we are locked in the room that is
our relationship. As the saying goes one door closes and another
opens. The door on insecurity and "singlehood" has
shut but the door to the rest of our life, ("married” life) is
wide open. There's no point in marking time, we need to march through
that now open door and conquer the lands that lay before us,
together, as a team!
To all those that
“don't believe in marriage/Civil Partnership” it's not the piece
of paper that makes you strong or that declares your love for each
other, that just certifies it. It's the action of making that legal
commitment by signing yourself into a forever contract. Yes, there is
a get out clause but if you focus on that your missing the whole
point and I ask you just don't bother getting hitched. Yes, there are
times when the clause should be used but it's like a fighter pilot's
ejector seat. They know it's there but they don't dwel on it.
Anyway, I hope you've
enjoyed this post and here are some photo's for you.
I'd like to say thank
you to the following people:
Sam for being silly
enough to marry me:)
Chris the photographer
for taking brilliant photo's:)
Lee for shooting a
great video:) (first shot is of me pulling up my under trousers)
Sam's Grandparents for
helping us get the house ready and sorting the buffet out.
My Aunt Lorraine and
Sam's dad for being witnesses
Last but in no
uncertain terms not least! Everyone who took the time to make our day
special with their attendance, cards, messages, posts and tweets.
They really did mean a lot.
If you were wondering, and it shouldn't have to be said but... No, I wasn't really bribed with money - it's real life not a soap opera.
The Registry Office
The Kiss
Sam"s Gran
Sam's Granddad
Sam, Electra & Me
Aunt Lorraine Signing The Register
Sam's Sister trying (poorly) to cross the cobbled road outside the registry office afterwards.
:)
The Forth Road Bridge outside the Registry office. (Lovely day!)
The Wedding Video:
There we go then! :)
Thanks everyone!
Apologise if I didn't post your photo!
If you're wondering where my family are, read my other posts! :)
I'm not normally one
for self pity, however, weather it's the winter blues or just a
collapse in self-belief I don't know.
I've started a new
drive to find employment. I've taken the fact I'm blind out of my CV,
so that can't go against me. But, I'm still getting nowhere, I know
there's something silly like 100+ candidates going for every job
that's advertised – it just seems like the world doesn't want me to
work at this time.
I'm not one for giving
up easily. When you've been out of education for seven years and no
“employment history” it does make you regret a few choices. The
first being, leaving school at sixteen thinking that you'd have an
equal chance in the employment market as any other sixteen-year-old.
Well why did you do it
if you regret it? Because, firstly I didn't know I was going to
regret it then or I'd not of done it. Secondly, at the time, I was
coming home from school to telephone interviews. My thinking at the
time was If I'm getting Telephone Interviews just now, it's only a
case of time before I get a face-to-face interview – and I did. I
had the grand total of five in the first two years.
Since these I've had
nothing other than a self induced sense of narcissistic self belief
and ability. Now, it's got to the point where the match sticks that
hold up this large ego are flexing and showing their weakness. It is
scary for someone like me to get to the point where they are
questioning their genuine position in life and my abilities. Will I
let these flexing slithers of wood break? Of course not, I'll ignore
the bending and splintering and carry on with life pricking myself on
the splinters every now and again to remind me that they are still
there.
What can I do? Give up?
Doing this serves no other purpose except declaring myself a failure.
Becoming one of the people in life that I dislike, the leaches of
society that don't try (even if it is futile). Some may say trying is
never futile, if you don't try you're name can't even be on the table
to be considered. When your name is on just about every recruiter's
desk (so it seems) trying feels like an effort filled step too far.
Why not go back to
education and make yourself more appealing to recruiters? This is
simple, I don't know what I want to do – other than, something.
You're not going to become a drifter are you? Not intentionally
anyway, I want to work doing something.
When you consider that
around seventy-five percent of blind people are unemployed it gives
you very little belief that the wall will ever fall. It's easy to
say, “people won't give me a job because I'm blind and they have a
stereotypical view of me because of my impairment.” but only one
percent of registered blind people are totally blind.
To summate, I feel like
I'm in a canyon and keep popping my head over the lip to find I'm
still in a desert. But, I keep marching on, catching myself upon
rocks every so often in hope I'll find an oasis – with the
obligatory mirages on the way.
Why are there laws for
drivers/riders but not pedestrians?
It is a driver's duty
to keep an eye out for people crossing; children playing at the side
of the road and other road users.
If two (or more)
vehicles crash, the police look for fault to make the right person
pay for the crime if one's been committed.
But, if a person is
knocked down because they weren't paying “due care and attention”
(providing they don't die) aren't convicted. If a person sustains
injuries because of poor clothing choices, they're not liable to the
same rules as a driver would be if they were to drive with no lights
on. If a cyclist cycles with headphones on and riders right over a
junctions with no change in speed to allow for something unexpected
to pop out; they're not punished.
My point is, why should
it be all up to drivers? We are responsible for our own actions, if
you choose to wear dark clothes it's your problem if you get hit by a
car at night. Humans have variable levels of vision but none are
known to have infra red capability. The driver my not have physical
injuries after a collision but most will suffer some sort of
psychological impact. Where is justice for them? Intension of causing
injury isn't there but a lack of duty of care to the driver's mental
well-being has been missed.
If a driver sadly dies
but is at fault, they're not convicted. Why shouldn't this apply to a
pedestrian? Maybe, just maybe, if pedestrians were accountable for
their own actions – people would take more care crossing roads, in
their choices of clothing and overall behaviour around roads.
My suggestions might
seem mad, but if we are all tide by laws that make us take more care,
surely this will make roads safer for all users?
If you have a ship
controlled by a blind person and another my a sighted person, what
one is at fault if they collide. The weather is perfect, both vessels
are in top working order and there's no mitigating circumstances
other than, one ship has no eyes looking out?
Exactly, the one with
eyes looking for risk factors.
But, the sighted
captained doesn't know there's nobody looking out.
If there was a sighted
person looking out on both vessels, then they could both take actions
– change course or speed to avoid the incident.
My point isn't about
blind people not being in control of sea going craft but, two alert
people can make changes to their behaviours to avoid an incident.
An important thing
about coming out is, it is different for everyone but there will be
similarities for us all!
1) Unless you're ready
to come out, don't even try it!
2) Once you are ready,
make sure you could survive with nobody. It's unlikely to happen, but
it does. I always say prepare for the worse hope for the best and
you'll land somewhere in between. It's hard to loose people at
anytime of your life. However, it's not as bad if you expect it.
When I came out, I did
it in a sneaky way. I told my sister knowing she'd tell my mum. In
turn who would tell my dad. This is how it went. When my dad and I
were in the car going to a football match (soccer) he asked me about
it. At 70 mph going along the motorway there's not too many options
for escape, I did the grown up thing and denied it and said it must
have been a figment of my mum's imagination. He took this and said no
more.
A few weeks, maybe
months after I e-mailed him explaining it all. At first he was scared
for me, unsure where that left his identity and our relationship.
I reassured him that I
was the same person, still thought he was a knob like any child
thinks of their parents and happy to take his money:).
I wont deny, it also
took a lot of hard work for both of us to restore our relationship.
But it was never the same. Not because there was an elephant in the
room but because there were no more secrets. I've been lucky, very
lucky, coming out has brought my dad and I closer. Our relationship
is better by far than what it was in the past.
Telling people,
make sure that you're in control of how fast people find out.
If you know somebody
will open their mouth by accident or not, don't tell them! Start with
the one person that will never leave you until you die, yourself.
Tell yourself that you're Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual or Transgender. See
how it feels when you call yourself this.
Tell your family
first. But who do I tell first? If you know you're family well,
choose the person who will react the worst. This sounds really
backward, they'll freakout, go nuts tell nobody. But with any luck
it will make a bad feeling between you that others will pick up on.
When people ask 'what's wrong?”, that's your chance to tell them.
You want the bad feeling from the other person, so the unknowing
person will be inclined to automatically sympathise with you. Once
you tell them, it will be harder emotionally for that person to be
against you, unless they're homophobic in the first place. If this
goes as planned you've then got a team mate! Tell the Next person,
and the next and the next.
5) Ultimately it's your
life, live it as you see fit. As long as it's not illegal and your
safe. Let people judge. It doesn't mean you have to accept their
verdict.
If anyone says this way is bad and so are the mind games that are invovled, please take not of the title before putting it down.
I use “God” to mean
a life force or being that is the patron of something like, Dionysus
with wine and partying or Hera with home and marriage. Not just the
Bible God.
God is an abstract
being. The belief in God is shared by many. To all those that believe
in God he is real but is interpreted differently as is his
manifestation.
Love is an emotion, an
abstract. It is only real to those that have experienced it. Love is
shared by many and they believe in it. There's people in the world
that don't know what love is, and don't believe it's true because
they've never experienced it.
In both cases God and
love, just because a person doesn't believe in it doesn't make it any
less valid for the people that do.
I can't hold up a photo
graph of God and say this is God. I can show you a photo of me
practicing my beliefs and say This is how I show God is real to me. I
can show you a photo of me and my soon to be wife battering lumps out
of each other for a laugh and you'd not think we “love” each
other. However, if I show you us on our wedding day holding hands and
sharing a kiss, it'd be a different story. For us love is present in
both photo's. But, in both you can't see love. You see what signs of
love we share. Context is a massive part in life.
If you have to preach a
faith or love it doesn't make it anymore real for none believers. It
only validates it more in the minds of those that believe in it. If
anything it widens the gap between people that don't share a faith –
(weather it be, they don't have one or have a different one).
Faith hinders true
human equality, if we didn't have a multitude of faiths then we'd all
be equal. But, we do have many faiths, as humans we need to work on
equality regardless of our own faith. Stop throwing mud at other
humans that have different beliefs from us. Slamming a Christian
because they believe homosexuality isn't equality. It's in equality.
Equality allows us all to have our own thoughts, feelings and
personalities. By virtue, if you slam someone for their thoughts etc
you're stopping them having equality. You may not agree with their
opinions and wish to find out more about their bases. However, it
doesn't make their choices any less valid than yours. We are all
humans, we are all different. Equality is all about being different
and not being judged upon those differences. At least that's what it
means to me. It may not be the dictionary definition but the
dictionary is a rule book for words. Language is fluid like it moves
and develops new directions.
For true equality we
don't need faiths but we need to embrace the fact that everyone has
their own version of faith.
So, with no further ado, here are the “inspired” questions I put to Under A Banner and Adam's very open responses.
Q: Who would you consider yourself to be similar to, or are you that alternative that you can't size yourselves up against any mainstream artists?
“We have been variously compared to Frank Turner, The Levellers and New
Model Army to name just a few. I'm aware of the last two (we've even
supported N.M.A) but, still to this day, I've never heard any Frank
Turner. I always tell people we're a mostly acoustic blend of what we feel
has been the best alternative music of the last 40 or so years.”
Q: Other than general life and your emotions, who or what inspires your music?
“Nature in all its majesty is a big inspiration, as are politics, people
and thousands of other emotions and abstractions. I respond lyrically to
anything and everything that's worthy.”
Q: Do you feel as a two person band you're taken any less serious?
“Although Jonny and I are the core of the band, we almost always, play as
a full band, with electric as well as acoustic instruments. These include
guitars, keys and violin.”
Q: What are your musical aspirations; do you want to headline at a major music festival or is it all about the music not the “being known” that's important?
“Whilst it is primarily about the music, we'd love to play some big
music festivals and large venues around the world. The chief ambition is
to play music for a living.”
Q: Time for a cheesy one! If you could perform with anyone either live or recorded, whom would you choose and why?
“Honestly, I'd love to perform with a 10 piece orchestra like one of my
favourite bands Ambrozijn. I'd also like to record with the
backing of celtic harpists and an Indonesian Gamelan orchestra!”
Q: Finally, what special message have you got for the world?
“I think that artists with special moral messages sometimes have
questionable motives; they sometimes share these to assuage their guilt.
It would be arrogant of me to try and tell people how to behave. It would
be great if folks could just be nice to one another. Beyond that, eat
fresh fruit and veg, read a lot and listen to Under A Banner ;)”
Brilliant answers, and hopefully the questions weren't to cheesy.
To find out where Under A Banner are playing and hear some of their great music head to their website, NOW!
They frequently Tweet freebie tracks and links to their great work too - @UnderABanner. They're now on Facebook too.
The aim is to have no rhyme, I was board and thought why not try a little LGBTQIA and the rest of the letter poetry, to fill out this Sunday evening - here's my attempts
Some may say it's
because I'm a skin flint but others would say and correctly it's
because I was sceptical about the hype.
However, I've now
upgrade to Blu-Ray.
Why? As a blind person
you'd think it'd be pointless upgrading but – I retain some
functional vision and with this I can see the difference between DVD
and Blu-Ray. Also there seems to be a substantial difference in audio
quality too.
With DVD the colours
are more pronounce, vivid and bold. Although you know they are real
people, you also know the colours aren't quite natural.
With Blu-Ray, the
colours are less of everything above thereby giving a more natural
look. The increased resolution gives a much sharper and window like
image.
The audio is slightly
less tiny. I know this can be down to the equipment the audio comes
out of but, with DVD, I found the sound levels weren't set the same
way as with Blu-Ray.
Since it's been
sometime now after the launch of Blu-Ray you can get a reasonable
Blu-Ray player for roughly the same price as a good DVD player. The
best deals as ever are to be had on the usual sites eBay and Amazon
and such like.
Of course, to put my
claims to test you can buy a triple play movie and compare the
quality between, DVD/Blu-Ray and Digital (on the computer).
Now, with Blu-Ray
Player and an external Blu-Ray drive you can now even play Blu-rays
on Mac.
As I write this it's
fifteen weeks and four days to “the big day”.
In the past few weeks
we've finalised a plan as far as we know what we want exactly now.
We've still got to work out timings and other minor stuff.
We've got a
photographer, videographer and registry office all booked. The
dresses bought and all the accessories to be bought but these are
already decided upon. The transport is agreed upon just to book it
(this coming week) – oh, and not forgetting the rings! These will
be got next week. We were going to get bespoke rings but with the
limited budget and short time left it'd just be another thing to
worry about. We may however get bespoke rings when we get normal
married in 2015 :)
We've reverted to the
“medieval” sort of style, if you don't know what this is then
either look it up or stay tuned for photographs in 16ish weeks time!
Don't
worry we're not calling it all off and going our own way!
The
new outfit plan is a Prince Charley style blouse with the flared
cuffs a black waist coat green tartan skirt (not kilt) with black
tights and brogues.
It
looks so much better than our first "get up" which would of
been over kill for a reg office and more formal than jeans etc!
However,
the dilemma now is. Since i was a small kid I've never 'done' the
whole pretty dresses and stuff. So, for me to wear a skirt out is
like "just punch me in the stomach".
I
have been trying to revamp my wardrobe and make it slightly more
overly feminine for ages but revert to my comfort clothes. I can't
bring myself to dispose of all my favourite "garbs".
It's
not like I'm even bothered about my figure or appearance. It seems to
be a mental block!
I should maybe point out - yes, we were going to wear dresses in the first instance but that was different because the skirt was long (makes no sense I know!). We, decided we want the skirts to be just above the knee because Maxi skirts in tartan wouldn't look so good and anything in-between would be even worse!
I'm
super fine with make-up, heals and pretty tops but really need some
help with this.
So,
any one that has faced this, have you got any advice!
Ok, Windows Live
Hotmail doesn't have IMAP function for Mac Mail client – but...
If you want to have
your e-mails dropped onto your desk top this is what I've done.
Firstly get signed up
for iCloud if you're not already.
I say use iCloud
because I'm too lazy to see what other e-mail providers support IMAP
other than GMail. Anyhow,
Simply:
Create an iCloud
account profile in the Mail app. Mail > Preference > Account
tab > Fill in the boxes. Ding, that's step on done.
Go to hotmail and
enable forwarding. Options > More Options > e-mail forwarding
> insert e-mail address you want it to be forwarded to click
save. Ding step two done.
Double check, the
frequency with which your mail is check by the Mail app this is in
Preferences under the General tab. I've got mine set to every
minute!
If you've already had
or got a Hotmail account on your Mail client use it's 'out” serve
route for the iCloud profile. This will send replies using your
hotmail address.
The alternative to this
is change to a gmail or iCloud account fully and wave bye bye to your
hotmail and enjoy IMAP on you iMac (or other model of Mac, just iMac
rhymes).
Plus side to my way is
there's no email address to change on every website you have it
registered on. The down side is that it's 5 minutes of your life
you'll not get back. The down side can be offset by fast forwarding
the adverts on a TV show you've recorded or getting your hands on
Bernard’s Watch ;).
If you're a little "geeky" like me :) you might like this
post.
There are three parts
to this:
Silents the
startup chime on the mac.
Get the Mac to
come on at a set time.
Get iTunes to
function as an alarm clock.
Part One: This bit is
really easy.
Download Psst click here (http://www.satsumac.com/Psst.php). Once
this is downloaded install it and your off. At the minute though not
all models are supported. You can tell them weather yours is or isn't
using the application.
Part Two: Presuming
you've got Psst installed and working.
Head for Applications >
System Preferences > Energy Saver. Once in Energy Saver click on
the padlock to unlock (if locked) then click on the Schedule button
on the right hand side.
In here you can decide
weather you want your alarm to be on every day, certain days, just
the weekend or just the week days. Here you can also set it to turn
off at a certain time too.
Make your choices hit
the OK button and then lock the padlock again to save your changes.
Step Three: The
slightly “geeky” bit.
Go to Applications >
Utilities > AppleScript Editor and open it!
To make iTunes work as
an alarm clock I used the following script.
Tell application
“iTunes” to play playlist “Your Playlist Name”
Hit complete and then
save it as an application.
When saving scripts
save them to a place you're going to have to go out of your way to
delete them. I've got mine in a subfolder in documents.
Go into iTunes and
create a playlist of the same name used in the app you just made. Put
the radio stations or tracks you want to hear first thing in it.
So far so good.
Now to make it all come
together. Head to System Preferences > User Groups > unlock the
padlock > Login Items
Click on the plus
symbol on the bottom left and navigate to your application. Set it as
the top thing to come on when you turn on. This is probably the point
where I should tell you that this application will run every time you
start the computer up. So if you don't want everybody knowing your
love for Aqua's Barbie Girl probably best not to have that on your
playlist first!
Lock the padlock to
save the changes making sure your application is checked first.
Restart your computer
to see if it's worked.
If it hasn't worked
check each step and element out.
It worked for me but if
it doesn't work for you or it send your machine into total melt down
causing your computer to connect by accident to the CIA/FBI server
and delete everything that's not my truck of poop to deal with. i.e.
I take no responsibility for anything you do to your computer even if
you follow my instruction.
The biggest risk to the
development isn't the LGBT community but religion!
Parents have the right
to remove their child from any lesson that involves the teachings of
another religion. Surely, this doesn't give the child the ability or
access to learn abut other faiths and determine if the religion of
their “choice” is the one they wish to follow.
It also leaves them
ignorant and less knowledgable about other faith groups.
Schools are currently
supposed to teach relationship and sex education that is relevant to
all pupils. In my experience they only taught about “straight”
relationships and all the stuff that comes with it. Given the cries
of parents when a teen girl wants to keep a unplanned pregnancy is
“you're a child you don't know what you want”. Isn't it more
logical if both straight and LGBT relationships and so on are taught
at school by default. If they are too young to keep a child how can
they be sure they are heterosexual? Like it or not the school bully
could be the biggest “Homo' in the school but has to hide it
because he doesn't want bullied himself because others are ignorant.
Unplanned pregnancies
obviously aren't a concern for a same-sex couple. But STDs are so why
leave the LGBT kids with no relevant education as such. Obviously,
the same rules apply “if you ain’t playing with it and someone
else is put something on it” goes for Gay and Bi folk but for
lesbians/Gay Females this is a little less easy to understand in the
same context. Not only this but I'm sure we've all said, “why are
we learning about geometry, when will I ever need it' this goes for a
child that believes and may well be gay at the time of his/her
education. Then when the time comes to use that “geometry” you're
stuck because you've not bothered to remember it.
Sheltering children in
my mind is abuse in it's own right. Obviously unless we're talking
about harm then that's vital – but we're not we're talking about
opening a young mind to the world in a controlled environment. Where
questions can be asked safely and they don't need to go and find
things out in a dodgy world called cyber-space. Admittedly the
thought of asking questions about “gay things' maybe daunting but
if, people know that it's not wrong to question things that fear may
be lifted.
For a strong society we
need to be open to all things. I've been exposed to lots of different
countries, types of people and religions. I for one am very grateful
for it. My dad has a saying that I believe to be very true: “If it
doesn't upset the horses, nobody gets hurt and they consent – it's
up to them what they do”.
If you're a Hotmail® user the chances are you get a fair bit of “junk' mail – of-course there's all those notifications from the Social Networking sites that we are all on.
To keep your 'inbox' clear as possible follow these easy steps:
Login to your Hotmail account.
Click on options which is just under the drop down menu with your name on it.
Click “More Options” at the very bottom of the options drop down.
Under the heading Customising Hotmail Click on “Rules for sorting new messages”.
Click on the New button to start the Rule maker, as I call it.
Here you can setup just about any Rule you can think of.. You can even set it up to delete messages that are advertising those special pills for men with erectile disfunction before they hit your mail box.
I have it setup to do just that. I've also got rules setup to put all my Twitter notifications in one folder and all my eBay messages/notifications etc in another folder.
If you know the exact e-mail address you want to block, from the More Options page you can select Safe and Blocked list. It's simple just put the address in and WAMB they're blocked.
